I remember going out with a guy that would not define our relationship for nothing. Whenever it came up he would hit me with some bullshit like “I don’t like labels” or “We’re still trying to figure that out”. I now know that if a guy pulls that in the words of one my favorite relationship coaches “He’s Lying Sis”. He doesn’t want to define the relationship because he’s just not that into you. He doesn’t see a future with you. You can stick around and hope that you can win him over by showing him how great you are but in the end he’s not going to change.
He’s already defined your relationship as a situationship. He’s willing to give you just to enough to get the benefits of the relationship without having to commit to one. So yes he enjoys your company. He enjoys the pleasures of sex and intimacy with you. You may have a lot of qualities that he likes. However, as long he doesn’t have to commit he’s free to do whatever he pleases and see whomever he pleases. He may be keeping his options open or may be in another situationship or relationship he’s not willing to give up on just yet. Either way, it’s all bad for person on the receiving end. This goes for men and women.
Have you ever been in a situationship? A relationship that for whatever reason has not been defined? I want to hear from you. Please comment below.
