For the most part I’ve only dated black men. I’m not totally opposed to dating outside of my race but that’s just what I’ve been attracted to the most physically and mentally. There’s something about the swag of a black man and how they carry themselves that I find irresistible. Also, I think I’ve always felt a since of duty to black men. I felt like because of the struggle our race has endured that as a black woman I owed it to black men to be there for them and nurture them to greatness. In my eyes, society has beat up on black men so much and the black family has been so broken that it was my job to repair it. It was my job to create a successful black family with a black man.
I looked up to couples on T.V. like the Huxtables from the Cosby Show and that what’s I always wanted. However, race is no longer a compatibility factor for me. I realize that dating outside of my race is not me giving up on black men or “selling out”. I’m at a point now in my life where I am open to dating and even marrying outside of my race. It’s more about being open to love based on true compatibility and soul connections. Not Struggle Love.
The type of man that I would be most compatible with outside of my race would be someone with the following traits:
- Swag and confidence
- Appreciate black culture (music, art, fashion, etc)
- Understanding and empathy towards the black struggle. (WOKE)
- Self Aware – He must still be true to himself and his culture and have his own identity. I don’t want someone trying to be black.
When it comes to matters of the heart, does LOVE have a race or color? Please comment below. We want to hear from you Smart Lovers.
